Valentine’s day – the day that is most well-known around the world that celebrates love, romance and relationships. A relationship is defined by the Oxford English dictionary as “the way in which two people, groups or countries behave towards each other or deal with each other”. Did you know that in your life, most of the relationships that you have are with the people that you work with? Your colleagues, your bosses, your staff, your teammates – the people that you interact with on an almost daily basis, are likely to far outnumber the friends and family that you interact with on a daily basis. So the question is – these partners – these relationships – are they with the right people? Have you chosen the right ones? Is it time to find some new ones? Let’s take a look.
When was the last time you had an amazing day at work?
I am not talking about when you came home or switched off the zoom and didn’t feel exhausted. But when did you last say “ I love my job!”
What was the reason? Was it because of something you did? Something you achieved? Feedback you received? Getting to work with great people?
Generally speaking if there isn’t a day in the last 60 days when you had a fantastic day because of the people you work with, it’s time for a change.
This might not be a fault of your current boss, or specific colleagues. We will be generous in our assessments. It can be anyone at all that you work with, a member of your team, someone from a different department. Clients and external stakeholders do not count I am afraid.
If you have spent the last 60 days without an amazing day caused by the people you surround yourself with, then it’s time for a break up! Life is too short.
People that will back you?
People that will support you?
People with the same mission as you?
People with the same values as you?
People with different skills?
Did you know that you can not just personally assess your colleagues but you can use this to assess an individual’s history and also their style, behaviour and preferences? Utilising technology alongside manual research can really help you understand people on a deeper level.
Once you’ve mastered that, the key is, do you know what you really want?
Our counsel, to those that read our posts regularly, think of your BHAG, design your vision board and then get really really clear on your objectives!
Did you know it’s not just about what other people give you?
So many of our clients say that they feel that their executives or their colleagues don’t value them. They don’t feel appreciated, or supported.
Our question.“What have you done to deserve this?” Usually the answer is like the school report you got as a child. “Good, but with the right focus, could do better!”.
If you could do better, then why not start now. Colleagues, bosses, teams, they are humans, they respond to triggeres. If you want them to treat you better, treat them better, if you want them to give you opportunities, then give them opportunities first. Believe us when we say that doing a good deed first will bepaid back 10 fold. Waiting to be treated better without taking action is close to a definition of insanity.
To get some complimentary tips on how best to approach your boss depending upon your sector, current context and even their psychometrics, then message us with the code word “Careerships Tips” and you will get a real golden nugget specifically for your next pay rise conversation or plan.
We hope you enjoyed our article. If you have mastered all of the above and want to really understand how to put your best foot forward in your career, get in touch with our CEO Richard Edge for a complimentary consultation.
All the best,
Richard Edge
CEO & Career Coach | Careerships
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